By: Jeannie Hall
As Christians, we understand the devastating effects of abortion, first of all to the child, but also to the aborting mother and father, and the family members and friends that advise and surround them. We do all that we can to stop them from acting on this terrible decision.
Do we then understand our responsibility to consider adopting those we have fought to save? Of course we want to help the woman who chooses to keep her child, so that she won’t feel that there is no alternative for her but abortion. That is where Expect Hope steps in, and yet there are some women who simply cannot raise their child, or try to do so and fail. Either they, or the State realizes that they cannot do this without harming the child and the child is placed in foster care or up for adoption. Those who choose adoption for their child at the time of birth will find many willing adoptive parents, but what about those who are older? Can we as believers in an all-powerful God take the chance of bringing an “older” child into our lives, or can the abortion industry point to us as not “putting our money where our mouth is,” leaving these “unwanted” children without families. What if mental illness runs in the child’s family, or there is a debilitating handicap, or they have shown aggressive behavior? What about the inherited “sins of the fathers”, or trauma from an earlier dysfunctional life? These are all “dangers” in adopting the older child that need to be faced.
My husband and I were led by God to adopt a four year old boy and his six year old sister, to add to our family of three sons. The children were considered “older”, and certainly their life experiences made them so. We believed it was the right thing for us to do and still would say so, but we found the path to be much rockier than ever anticipated. After over 35 years, we still see the decision as being the most difficult and faith building of our lives. Our commitment to them has not ended in their adult years and the need for wisdom in parenting them continues. Do we encourage others to consider the same road? We do, because who else but a Christian parents can really help children this needy?
When we ask a woman not to abort her child she is making a life-time commitment to an unexpected baby. If she does abort the child the effects of that decision are also for a life-time. If the child that is saved from death before birth becomes in need of another family, the adopting family is putting themselves in a life-time commitment as well, but they are stepping into a situation not of their own making. They are taking up a great responsibility before God.
As I pray in front of the abortion clinic here in the Bronx, I pray that the men and women considering abortion will change their minds and let the child live. I also pray that if the mom is unsupported by the baby’s father or her family, that she will come to Expect Hope and that her life will be transformed, as will the future for her child. If she decides to have the baby adopted from birth, may the baby be taken into a Christian family. The child who is caught in life’s disasters and in need of a new family will present a tough, stretching, and humbling situation that Christian families and singles must prayerfully consider. Are we willing to help these children by working to ”bind up their wounds”? Will we lead them on the path of truth, guiding them to God’s offered gift of salvation? In 2015, there were 100,000 children in the United States in need of an adoptive home. Can we as believers say to our pro-abortion counter-parts that if the moms they champion choose to let the baby live that the Christian community will guarantee that each one will have a family, and be wanted?